My Kids Refused Their Inheritance. Here’s How We’re Giving It All Away.

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My father’s estate was settled during the COVID-19 pandemic, not long before police killed George Floyd. My dad wasn’t among the economic elite but for many racial justice protestors, that might be splitting hairs. Along with some money, there was a rambling house in East Hampton with a heated pool in which my kids learned to swim. My wife and I thought to put most of the inheritance aside for our children’s (and fingers crossed, grandchildren’s) education and down payments on future homes, the kinds of things my father ― a generous caretaker who grew up poor during the Depression ― did for my brother and I.

“No,” my kids pushed back. “Just give it away.”

The pandemic and racial justice uprising that took place last year make for a strange time for parenting and a stranger time still to receive an inheritance. On the one hand, the pull to protect one’s own tugs hard. Harder than I’d imagined. On the other hand, glaring inequalities in health care and powerful calls for racial justice make that instinct a little out of touch. My kids had to shout before we heard, “We’re fine. We’re swimming in privilege we did nothing to deserve and that we received based on the color of our skin.”

My wife and I work in community service. We’ve tried to raise the kids with generous, civic-minded values. We were Sen. Bernie Sanders (I-Vt.) supporters and lived and volunteered in El Salvador for many years before and after the civil war, accompanying a struggle for radical redistribution of wealth. You’d think we would be easy targets for their agitating.

And yet we stalled. Although fundraising and grant-making are a big part of my job, I was new to giving away my wealth. “Let’s have a family meeting to figure out philanthropic priorities,” I suggested. “Do some research, make a plan.” My kids rolled their eyes, impatient.

We weren’t the sole targets of the kids’ badgering, or, as they put it, invitation to step up. My daughter had previously raised money for a women’s agroecology project in Ghana, where she’d volunteered. During the early waves of protest against police impunity, she sent a plea to family and friends with the subject line, “Please Don’t Stop” and continued, “we NEED to be giving ALL (not some) of the money we spend ... to Black people at this time and forever. This email is not meant to attack anyone. But I do want to remind all of us of our privilege. WHITE WEALTH IS RACISM ... White people will ALWAYS have a leg up.”

Her uncle reported that the email was grist for not one, but two therapy sessions.

My father climbed his way into the upper middle class by being a beneficiary of the GI bill, pretty hard-working, cheap and extremely lucky. His estate included my mother’s savings, who died years before, and her father’s ― a Lithuanian immigrant. My parents’ philanthropic gestures were modest at best ― my mother weirdly, but sweetly, referred to me as her charity ― and for my maternal grandfather, it consisted mostly of giving multiples of $18 for Israel.

On a night last year when we returned raw and opened from a Black Lives Matter march where we’d locked arms with the kids, my wife and I took a big step and donated thousands of dollars to Black- and immigrant-led organizations, which for us constituted significant giving.

Unimpressed, our daughter bested us. She’d given away her COVID-19 unemployment benefits, on top of which she threw us a curveball.

At her age, I was studying to be a community organizer. For years, I door-knocked in Boston public housing, supporting community leaders fighting City Hall for neighborhood improvements. The next decades were spent moving (other people’s) money into international social movements ― farmer-led struggles for land and water rights. I tended to be dismissive of charitable giving that helps individuals but doesn’t build grassroots power ― scholarship programs for example.

“Let’s pay off Naima’s college debt,” our kids proposed. Naima is a Black, immigrant friend who has been part of our extended family since middle school. I balked, arguing that we need policies and programs for debt-free college and comprehensive reparations. My daughter’s eyes rolled again, skeptical that justice will emerge from a historically racist political system, the new administration notwithstanding. “Naima and her family are financially stressed every day,” she replied. “We have the resources to zero out their debt now. A kind of mini-reparation.”

“Which then?” I sighed. “Pay off her loan or fund social justice organizations?”

“Both,” the kids said.

Argh. Having what I thought were decent social justice credentials, I flinched at being schooled by my daughter, the more vocal instigator. How could I feel simultaneously so proud of our kids for their values while dodging their criticism and feeling ever-so-slightly fleeced? Quarantine dinners were fractious.

I visited the kids in Greece in 2019 while they both volunteered with refugees. (Note: Plane flight paid for with grandpa’s money). Stray cats were everywhere; my daughter lugged around a 10-pound bag of cat food to feed them. “There are too many,” I blurted, as we walked maddeningly slowly. “Feeding them is no solution.” Bending to scatter food, she calmly responded to my fit as a cat rubbed against around her ankle: “I can help some.” We’d had the argument many times before about being more “strategic” and less impulsive; it was strange, I admit, to suggest that she be a little less compassionate in such a heartless world.

Racial justice, COVID-19 recovery, reversing climate change. It was starting to feel difficult to justify holding onto grandpa’s estate. To study nursing, my son had recently snubbed NYU and chosen community college. He couldn’t stomach the expensive elitism. “Use grandpa’s college fund money for Naima’s debt,” he insisted.

But still. The kids are in their early 20s ― could they possibly know they wouldn’t need money later? The layers of irony made my head hurt. Privilege got us the money and it’s an even greater privilege to be able to give it away with the blessing of one’s children. We had just been relieved of the age-old parental worry to leave something behind by kids who would rather take their chances. And they’re probably right ― being white and middle class, even their children likely won’t need help.

But a question nagged: What would my father think? Although crazy about the kids, he’d think they were just plain nuts and would say so. My father was a woodworker; he crafted grandfather clocks, hutches, jewelry boxes ― things that endured. My parents weren’t lavish; pretty much the entire point of making the money was to leave it to the next generation who would use it and leave it to the one after that. Nothing would draw a bigger grin from my dad in heaven than watching his great-great-grandchildren step into a college classroom using the remains of his bank account.

So he would not be happy. But then I imagined the kids returning his firehose of affection: playing with his hair, rubbing his bald spot and cajoling him to flex his once formidable biceps. He’d surely melt. He was doting and tender first; work and money were always a distant second ― priorities he inherited from a father he idolized.

So we took the plunge. We paid off Naima’s loan and are giving most of the rest away in a public way that might motivate others, which risks ― we realize ― receiving undeserved praise for simply doing the right thing. We trust our kids to understand what no inheritance means. We don’t want a philanthropy in perpetuity, taking advantage of unfair tax loopholes and joining the likes of Bezos and Gates in granting pennies on the dollar. As the kids have pointed out, hoarding leaves privilege intact.

And in this time of so much injustice to repair and no roadmap of how to do it, the kids’ hearts, fed by their grandfather’s embrace, offer a sort of compass. Their generosity is my dad’s real legacy ― not his money.
 

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My father climbed his way into the upper middle class by being a beneficiary of the GI bill, pretty hard-working, cheap and extremely lucky. His estate included my mother’s savings, who died years before, and her father’s ― a Lithuanian immigrant. My parents’ philanthropic gestures were modest at best ― my mother weirdly, but sweetly, referred to me as her charity ― and for my maternal grandfather, it consisted mostly of giving multiples of $18 for Israel.
I don't have a problem with this particular family throwing their inheritance away.
 

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I gagged reading that. There is some consolation in the fact that these sound like Jews. But then even if Grandpa was a bootstraps kind of guy who I could naturally respect these SJWs are so full of scat they are a disgrace to him. If these are goyim then the kids will be in for a rough time and get what they deserve for disrespecting their Grandpa and everything he did for them. I am just saddened by suspicion that they are not and the Jew SJWs will have doors opened for them by their usurious kinsmen.
 

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Amazing, simply amazing. Obviously they’re Jews (even without the donating to Israel thing) but this is next level virtue signaling and chutzpah.
My thoughts exactly !

I tended to be dismissive of charitable giving that helps individuals but doesn’t build grassroots power ― scholarship programs for example.
hmmm....maybe Jews ?

So we took the plunge. We paid off Naima’s loan and are giving most of the rest away in a public way that might motivate others, which risks ― we realize ― receiving undeserved praise for simply doing the right thing.
This demonstrates a lack of self awareness, only achieved by Jews.
 

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Those kids are morons and dont understand the purpose of inheritance.
I agree with hating them for being Jewish, but not for turning down wealth.

Yes, this just means that they'll get more wealth from Jewish "donors" in the long run --

-- but Christ tells us that we need to learn how to live without material possessions.
 

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I'm sure the nigger recipients of this family's largesse will be very greatful. As to paying off the college debt of their immigrant friend as reparations, reparations for what? Their friend was an immigrant, not a descendant of slaves. These people are clearly morons.
 

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What about the millions of whites fleeing ‘poverty and violence’ 100 years ago who came to North America with a single suitcase? Did they have a leg up? Did they have government provided housing, health care, monthly checks? Did whites build their wealth on government handouts? Is white privilege planning for the future? Where’s jewish privilege then?
 

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Whether they're Jews or not, this shit just makes me angry...this is where white people, and their moron children have ended up - the lie that is white privilege, the hatred of their ancestors, their self loathing, their veneration of niggers, their desire to self destruct because they're oppressors...

Fucking Jews.
 

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Kikes high on their own supply. You love to see it.
the problem is, "leading by example" works wonders. i'm sure the kikes from the article somehow found a way to funnel the inheritance money back to the family coffers. they know how to do foundations of associations of non-profit-organizations.

but, there WILL be some white morons that WILL give away all they have because metoo.

there was an interesting study couple of twenty years ago, that found each broadcast of your song on mtv automatically meant 1000 sold CD's. mtv isn't relevant anymore, but the mechanism is the same.

for every kike fake-donating it's inheritance, at least several white morons will, but for real.
 

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Jews push these stories to get gullible goyim (redundant?) to do likewise--without, of course, the kosher safety net.

They had a big push about 10 years ago to get female goyim to self-mutilate via titty amputation and healthy hysterectomies, headlined by Angelina Jolie, in the name of pre-empting cancer. More recently, of course, there has been the jewish push for genital mutilation by goyim in the name of "gender rights."

Rinse, repeat. Same old jewish anti-White propaganda under a do-gooding pretext. War by other means.

@egregor nailed it.
 

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What about the millions of whites fleeing ‘poverty and violence’ 100 years ago who came to North America with a single suitcase? Did they have a leg up?
Whites have high IQ, and Jesus Christ.

Which is why Whites will always win against Satan.
 

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Whether they're Jews or not, this shit just makes me angry...this is where white people, and their moron children have ended up - the lie that is white privilege, the hatred of their ancestors, their self loathing, their veneration of niggers, their desire to self destruct because they're oppressors...

Fucking Jews.
These people need to cook off of our race.
 
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