From 'geriatric pregnancy' to '35+ pregnancy:' There's a better way to talk to pregnant people


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Ours is not a culture that makes life easy for pregnant people.

There's the side-eye from busybody strangers, in disapproval of a coffee order or workout routine (or lack thereof). There are the bosses and colleagues who refuse to accommodate their pregnant employees, in ways subtle and not.

Then there's the lack of universal paid leave, forcing many new moms to choose between healing from childbirth or paying their rent. As if the act of gestation -- and conception for those struggling with infertility -- was not enough.

One might hope that the doctor's office, a site of reason and science, would be an island of support and empathy amid the sea of judgment. So often, it's anything but.

"Hostile uterus." "Geriatric pregnancy." "Failed pregnancy." "Lazy ovary."

These are all actual, official medical wphrases used by doctors to speak to pregnant people as well as those struggling with conception. And, trust me, they're not any more tolerable when spoken out loud.

Peanut, a social network for mothers, has heard again and again the pain, frustration and anger these terms have caused its members. These are all relatively common sentiments, according to research.

This spring, Peanut decided to try to help. Its staff convened a panel including a linguist, obstetrician and two psychologists and tasked them with rewriting the phrases used to describe pregnancy and early parenthood.

The resulting glossary, which they're calling the Renaming Revolution, includes more than 60 new and improved, nonjudgmental medical terms. It's one piece of a broader, ongoing effort to make conception and pregnancy language more humane.

The new vocabulary

A few highlights from Peanut's new glossary include replacing "biological clock," with all its ticktock neurosis, with "family planning."

"Hostile uterus" has become "uterine lining implantation struggles" because we aren't talking about a marital spat here. We're talking about tissue.

"Incompetent cervix" has become "early cervical dilation."

"Habitual aborter" has become "recurrent miscarriage," referring to pregnant people who have had three or more pregnancy losses before 20 weeks of gestation.

"Insufficient milk supply" has become "low milk supply."

Stay-at-home-mom has become "full-time childcarer."

The widely disliked "geriatric pregnancy" has become "35+ pregnancy."

Age is just one of many factors determining the potential outcome of a pregnancy, according to Renaming Revolution panelist Dr. Somi Javaid, OB/GYN, surgeon and founder of HerMD. There's no reason to make these pregnant people feel as though they're too old to responsibly conceive a child.

When pregnant people miscarry but their bodies don't discharge all the tissue naturally, doctors must intervene. This is referred to as "evacuation of retained products of conception." The panel suggests "compassionate removal" instead, which honors that "products of conception" can feel a little clinical and cold to those whose miscarriage has brought them grief.

While writing the new terms, the panelists often went in two different directions, said contributor Amanda Montell, feminist linguist and author of "Wordslut." With some phrases, it was better to be more specific. Why call a uterus "inhospitable" when instead you can just tell a patient what, exactly, is wrong with it?

Other times, like with "compassionate removal," sensitivity won out.

"Language has incredible power to legitimize and delegitimize our experiences," Montell said. As such, she and her fellow panelists attempted to come up with vocabulary that would minimize the potential for grief and self-blame.

An ongoing movement

The new glossary also swaps "breast is best," for "fed is best," a phrase that has been promoted by baby-feeding activists in recent years.

Instead of putting all the focus on whether the baby is consuming exclusively breast milk, which can make parents who struggle with breastfeeding feel terrible, "fed is best" puts the emphasis on whether the baby is getting enough nutrients and calories.

This shift has happened alongside a slower-moving one in doctors' offices toward more sensitive language.

Going all the way back to the 1980s, doctors and researchers began pushing for the use of "miscarriage" instead of "spontaneous abortion" in medical literature.

Dr. Kara Goldman, a reproductive endocrinologist and assistant professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern Medicine, said that a rising number of physicians are aware of the problems and are using more compassionate language with patients and colleagues."

For example, many of her colleagues now use more neutral phrases such as "ovarian insufficiency" and "cervical insufficiency" instead of "premature ovarian failure" and "cervical incompetence."

"We know that infertility and pregnancy loss are often accompanied by deep feelings of inadequacy, shame and guilt, and (the) last thing a patient needs to hear is that she is somehow a failure or part of her body failed her or is incompetent," said Goldman, who was not involved with the Peanut glossary.

"The words we use really do matter, patients hear them and process them on a deep level."

Why change is slow

While few doctors want to make their patients feel bad, Goldman said that old habits die hard. The root of the problem, she explained, lies with the way pregnancy and infertility is coded in medical records and communications with insurance companies.

Doctors have to be more deliberate